Laura DeAngelo and her Raptana
On a recent trip to Virginia for a graduate school reunion, I took
the opportunity to meet a few Simple Equine customers from the
mid-atlantic region. One of these customers was Laura DeAngelo. Laura
is a multi-talented woman, the manager of a large tack store, the owner
of her own horse and rider training business, and the artist of
commissioned pet portraits. Are you seeing a theme here? Yes, Laura is
devoted to horses like so many of us, and is lucky enough to make a
living that is fully related to the horse industry in one way or
another.
On a rainy day, I rolled up the gravel driveway to the farm where
Laura does a lot of her horse and rider training. She also boards two
mares at this farm. After we greeted each other, the first order of
business was to meet Laura's two mares, Sookie and Raptana. We ambled
down to the large and beautiful green pasture where all the mares were
peacefully eating the lush grass.
Right away, it was easy to see Laura's passion for horses. The smile
on her face grew as we approached young Sookie, a paint quarter horse
just starting her eventing career. We walked a little further afield to
greet Raptana, a lovely, tall and athletic chestnut. Laura has known
both for pretty much their whole lives, as she started them both and has
done most of their training. We walked back towards Sookie, and Laura
gently put on her halter. Then it was off back up the hill to the barn
so that Sookie could be groomed and tacked up.
Laura with Raptana and Sookie
As Laura got Sookie ready, we chatted about horses, actually, I
mostly peppered Laura with questions which she graciously answered.
How long have you been involved with horses?
"My mom says I was in love with horses before I ever saw one. Though
none of my immediately family rides, I sometimes wonder if it was
something in my genes - I know that I had ancestors who were
accomplished equestrians. I've also always been fond of all animals.
As a child I was in awe of the horses grace and beauty."
"I convinced my mom to let me take riding lessons. It came to me
naturally. But I struggled with my confidence in the saddle, I was a
bit of a perfectionist. If I couldn't do it correctly, I would get a
little stressed or nervous. I would think about all the possibilities
of what could happen. I was never the kid egging on my friends to go
galloping across a field. I'd be more likely to say that we should be
walking across the field because of all the unknowns - whether the
horses might become too excited or do something silly, whether there
would be uneven ground etc. I even had instructors who said that I was
the only thing holding back my own riding ability. What I realize now,
when I reflect on that time as a novice, was that I was cautious, not
because I was scared of horses or of riding, but because I knew that
there was so much about the world of horses that I just didn't know."
"As I learned more and more, my confidence started to grow. Also,
when an instructor says you are the one holding yourself back, I think
it makes you even more determined. I became more devoted, I gained more
knowledge, and got better and better. Perhaps it was more of a slow
and steady approach, maybe a bit unusual for a kid, but it worked for
me."
Laura and Raptana
How did you know you wanted a career in the horse industry?
"Horses help me better myself as a person. So many of the skills we
learn in communicating with horses, enable us to improve our own lives.
The relationship and communication between horse and rider is what I
really love."
"Horses have also been the one constant in my life. Whether I've
been down, or had a bad relationship, or even just a bad day, I could
pull myself together and speak the horses language. They would be 110%
willing to work with me and that was a very amazing thing. Even if a
ride wasn't that good, you could go home, think about it, and try again
the next day. The best part is the horse doesn't hold a grudge the next
day and is ready to begin again. It's so incredible. I'd like to be
able to be like a horse: forgive and move on, and be flexible and so
adaptive. They are incredible creatures. I continue to be awed and
inspired by them. They are our mirrors and a window into our own soul.
There was no doubt I needed a career that involved these amazing
animals."
Laura giving a young horse some trail experience
Tell me a little bit about your training and teaching philosophies.
"In my business, I mostly work with horses who seem to be having an
issue. By issue I mean that there is usually a break down in
communication between them and their rider, and it's causing trouble or
friction in their relationship. I will often work with the horse on my
own, but I highly encourage the rider to be involved. Yes, I often need
to work with the horse myself for a period of time, but in the end it
is the horse and rider relationship that needs to change and
strengthen. Oftentimes the horse is reflecting the rider. My goal is
to create peace and unity between the horse and rider."
"The first question to ask is, 'What is the root cause of why the
horse is acting out in a particular way?' Once we can reach the answer
to that question, we can come to a solution. It's also a matter of
coaching the rider, to try and help them understand the situation and
see things from a different perspective. In the end, the experience has
got to be fun and enjoyable for the horse and the rider. I try to
develop both horse and rider to have confidence in what they are doing,
which in turn creates a real relationship."
"One of the best things for me is that seeing the elation when
something clicks for the rider, when they think, Aha! that was really
it. The rider feels great, because they have been able to communicate
in an easy, simplistic manner that the horse understood. Thus both
horse and rider are content."
Champions Laura and Sookie
What advice would you have for other riders?
"Remember why we did this to begin with. We all started because we
loved the creature. We had an initial love and obsession for the
horse. The horses heart should be be at the center of everything we
do. If all we want is recognition and ribbons, it's at the sacrifice
of the horse. It's not about the fame, ribbons or competition. You
should ride because you enjoy it. The horse needs to enjoy being with
us as well. A rider should strive to find a place where the horse feels
happy and relaxed about their job."
"Take the time to listen to your horse, and don't hesitate to get
help if you are having trouble. Even Olympic level riders get help with
their riding and their horses. We should all be trying to help each
other be better with our animals. There is no place for ego with
riding. Confidence yes, ego no. Ego will get us in trouble. Have the
courage to admit when you are wrong, and admit where your weaknesses
are. The horse will often tell us where our weaknesses are. We need to
observe that and acknowledge it and work through it."
Laura giving Raptana a well deserved pat
What is your favorite Simple Equine product and why?
"Sookie, with her four white stockings, has thin, sensitive skin.
She is susceptible to skin conditions on her legs, especially when it is
really wet and muddy. The Healing Calendula Salve really helps her.
With scratches, it softens everything to where it will come off and then
help to treat it. I also believe it protects the skin and keeps out
unnecessary water moisture."
We love Laura's thoughts on horses, riding and training, and thank her for being a great customer!
Laura and Sookie
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